There are three questions to ask yourself:
- What is my big question?
- What are the details or little questions that I need to know?
- How many cards do I want to work with?
- You determine that the larger, main question is "Should this couple consider marriage?"
- After talking to your friend or client you determine that they want to know what challenges they face together as a couple, what things each of them bring to the relationship, what keeps them together, and how well they can handle difficulties as a couple.
- You know that you're OK with reading this in six cards.
The shape of the cards when laid out will look something like this:
6
4----------5
1---------3---------2
With the shape we want the 1,2,3 cards to represent foundational elements, the middle to be active or growing elements, and the top card, card 6, to be the outcome.
So piecing together your layout might look something like this:
- What you bring to the relationship
- What they bring to the relationship
- What connects and bonds you to one another
- The challenges you face together as a married couple
- How you work as a couple to overcome them
- How the marriage will look overall
I have created spreads in the past looking at an image too. For example taking the paw print of an animal and using that to determine the shape and number cards and using a question that is reflected in this shape, like looking for answers about making a journey. Shape is something that I don't feel is nearly as important as determining the number of cards you're comfortable working with and then breaking down your question. And, like I said, I'll talk about spread shape in the future.
Hope that gives you some inspiration and eliminates a little anxiety around creating your own spreads!